I have this recurring nightmare. It's a pretty classic anxiety / control dream.
I'm back in college wandering the halls and it's finals week. I am experiencing a complete loss of time. I have this terrible realization that I am completely unprepared for my exams and that I haven't been to class in months. I can't find the exam room and I'm not even sure of my class schedule. My vision is blurry. I am completely confused.
Even though this might be symbolic for other things going on in my waking life, ironically it's pretty close to how college went for me.
This dream is a good analogy for parenting.
There are times when I am completely confused, unprepared and my vision is extremely blurry.
The other evening while watching Full House with my kids.
7 Year Old - Do we know anyone that had a baby that died?
Out-Numbered - What? Why do you ask that?
7 Year Old - I heard someone talking about it.
Out-Numbered - What do you mean, died?
7 Year Old - Like do you know anyone who was going to have a baby but it died before it came out?
Out-Numbered - You mean a miscarriage?
7 Year Old - What's a miscarriage?
Out-Numbered - Um, that's when something goes wrong when a woman is pregnant and the baby dies before it's born.
7 Year Old - Do you know anyone that had a miscarriage?
Out-Numbered - Yes.
7 Year Old - Who?
Out-Numbered - Well, I don't think we should talk about anyone's business but our own.
7 Year Old - How come?
Out-Numbered - Because they might not want to talk about it and it's very private.
7 Year Old - Why?
Out-Numbered - Because it's painful.
7 Year Old - It hurts.
Out-Numbered - I mean it's painful for someone to talk about it.
7 Year Old - Why?
Out-Numbered - Because it would probably make them sad to think about it.
7 Year Old - Did Mommy have a miscarriage?
Out-Numbered - Yes she did.
7 Year Old - REALLY? Whoa! When?
Out-Numbered - Before your sister was born.
7 Year Old - Did I die?
Out-Numbered - What do you think?
7 Year Old - No?
Out-Numbered - No.
7 Year Old - Where you sad?
Out-Numbered - Of course I was sad.
7 Year Old - Was Mommy sad?
Out-Numbered - Very sad.
7 Year Old - Did you cry?
Out-Numbered - I don't think so.
7 Year Old - How come you didn't cry?
Out-Numbered - Because I knew it was God's way of telling us that the baby wasn't healthy and it wasn't ready to be here with us.
7 Year Old - Did Mommy cry?
Out-Numbered - Yes.
7 Year Old - Did it hurt?
Out-Numbered - Probably but you would have to ask Mommy.
7 Year Old - How did she know the baby died?
Out-Numbered - Because when she went to the Doctor, it wasn't moving anymore and they didn't hear the baby's heart beating.
7 Year Old - How did they get the baby out?
Out-Numbered - They use a special machine.
7 Year Old - Does that hurt?
Out-Numbered - I'm not sure.
7 Year Old - What kind of machine?
Out-Numbered - It's kind of like a special vacuum cleaner.
7 Year Old - Does it go in Mommy's vagina?
Out-Numbered - I think so.
7 Year Old - Ewww.
Out-Numbered - You know what though?
7 Year Old - What?
Out-Numbered - Everything happens for a reason.
7 Year Old - What does that mean?
Out-Numbered - It means that your Mother and I were very sad that it happened but if it didn't happen, we would never have had your little sister.
7 Year Old - That's true. She is annoying though.
Out-Numbered - So are you.
7 Year Old - How old do you think Uncle Jesse was when they made Full House?
Out-Numbered - You mean John Stamos?
7 Year Old - The handsome one.
Out-Numbered - John Stamos. I have no idea. Maybe 25?
7 Year Old - Whoa. He was old. He doesn't look old.
Out-Numbered - Do I look old?
7 Year Old - Yes.
Out-Numbered - Thanks.
7 Year Old - Your welcome.
Someone please pinch me...