Then I realized that Opening Night was actually more important this year than it has ever been. I spoke to my friend who is sick, during the week leading up to the game. I told him that I'd keep the ticket available for him until the last minute. I knew he'd been feeling awful as of late and it would be tough for him to commit.
"Dude. If you feel up to it, just call me that day. I'd love to see you there on Opening Night."
He said he can't make any promises but he'd try his best to make it.
"I want to be there bro. I just don't know how I'm gonna feel."
The night before the game, I thought to myself that if my buddy was gonna make it out, then I needed to let him know how important it was to me to have him there. I wanted him to know that it was more than a game.
Adam Graves is a former New York Ranger. He happens to be one of the greatest Blueshirts to ever don the sweater. Adam is still a prominent figure in the organization and is known for his selfless commitment to local philanthropies, as well as, being a stellar human being. I took a chance and sent him an email in the hope that my buddy would indeed make it to the game.
This is what I wrote:
Adam,
I've been a Rangers fan my whole life and a season subscriber for 13 years. I'll be at opening night tomorrow and for many reasons, it will be an emotional night for me. For the past 13 years, myself and two of my best friends have been going to the games together. Lot's of great times. This year one moved away with his family, so he won't be going to the games with us. Then a few months ago, the other one found out that he has Cancer. He's been pretty sick. He had to stop working and he's lost about 30 lbs. It's in his stomach, liver and lungs. We've known each other since we were 12 and reconnected after years apart in 1994 at MSG of all places during the cup run. We've been going to the games together ever since. Obviously because of his health, it's impossible for him to commit to the games this year. This leaves me with an empty seat on most nights. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of my buddy and the battle he's having right now. We both have little kids and stuff like this really hits you in the heart. His health is obviously bigger than any game but The Blueshirts have always bonded us through the years. I spoke to him yesterday and he said he's going to do whatever he can to get to opening night tomorrow. I'm hoping he feels up to it. I know it's last minute but I was hoping that if he made it to the game with me, there might be some way you could arrange to have some sort of meet and greet or special experience, no matter how simple, for him before or after the game. I'm not sure how many of these he'll get to see in the coming months and something tells me that if I can, I should try and make it a special night for him. I understand if you're too busy. I know you probably get 100's of these a week. I just thought I'd give it a shot.
Respect,
Jason
The morning of the game, I received a call on my cell phone. It was Adam Graves. He asked how my friend was feeling and if I thought he'd make it to Opening Night. I told him that as of yesterday, he planned on coming. Adam said he would send someone to our seats to get us during the game. He said that he reserved a private sky box for us to watch a period with him. Just the three of us. I was blown away by his kindness. I had goosebumps.
My buddy made it out that night and we saw our beloved Rangers beat the Ottawa Senators 5-2. We also spent about 40 minutes shooting the shit with one of our heroes. My buddy cried when he realized that Adam and I arranged the whole night for him. I cried too. Everyone always asks me why Hockey is so important to me. Everyone always wants to know why I get so crazy over a Rangers win or a loss.
The answer couldn't be clearer. Hockey heals. Sometimes heroes really make a difference.
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71 comments:
What a beautiful thing to do for your friend! I hope that he will get better. I'm not a religious person (This Yom Kippur I used a regular candle for a yahrzeit candle and put it in a flower vase. Almost had a fire when the glass burst:)) But since my husband's bypass I have believed in prayer. So I will be praying for your friend. My mother died of the same type of cancer. Spend asmuch time as you can with him. Pray a lot!!!!
I can't give anything now, but wish I could!
Gosh, what an awesome friend you are. You made the game so special for him and i'm sure i'll be one you both remember...
Will be sending up a prayer for your friend.
Oh, Jason, I feel for you and your friend. Having had many people in my life with cancer, I can really relate to what you guys are going through. Will be praying for your friend. Having you on his side will certainly help.
Best,
Lynn
Sometimes, your blog makes me cry from laughter, and today, I am crying bc I am so touched by what you did for your friend. So so great Jay !! You are a good man, Charlie Brown. xoxox
Great story Jason. My father died of lung cancer (among other serious ailments) and hockey was a big source of enjoyment for us back when games were still on free tv. He'd watch what was on and listen to the other team on the radio. It was hard to follow what was going on as a kid watching the Rangers while hearing the Islanders. Hockey certainly does heal. Good luck to your friend.
Colin
ah, my fellow bleeding heart friend... i'll see what paul and i can scrounge up in our couch cushions and be proud to help you out.
Jason, that is wonderful! Makes me love you even more. Adam is my favorite player. He had style on the ice and off. It is an amazing thing you both could do for your friend. It is also what I love about hockey players. They for the most part haven't forgotten they are real people.
I have been through watching a friend and family member go ... Read Morethrough this fight. The crazy thing about cancer is you never know the outcome. You think it is the end and they find the strength to fight. The best thing as a friend is to just be there for them and give them hope. Also to distract them with anything but talking about the "C" word. I'll keep you and your friend in my thoughts.
Way to go J. My best wishes and prayers to your buddy. You or he are encouraged giving me a shout next time either of you are down here.
That's just fucking fantastic. All around. You for taking the time to set that up and Adam Graves for being a class act. It's unbelievably rare and spectacular when our sports heroes turn out to be actual heroes in real life.
Class act. All the wAy around.
A great thing you did for your friend and Graves came through as usual! Would be nice if more athletes followed Adam's lead.
Absolutly awesome!!!!! #9 was always one of my favorites. What a great night, great memories - Your heart must of skipped a beat when u heard Graves' voice.The emotions went right through me reading this!
Jason, that brought tears to my eyes, one of my best friends was just diagnosed with cancer as well and what you did and the experience he had really can heal. Great post!
awesome jay! so proud of u! i know it was an amazing and difficult night.
YUV!
Thanks for the inspiration, J. Adam's efforts here do not suprise me, but his committment to being an outstanding person continue to amaze me. You're right on that level for this post and gesture, in my book. See you at a game soon. Go blue!
Thats awesome of you man!
no other words.....WOW
Wow Jason. Really affirms the capacity of humans to do good; both you and Adam. Thanks for sharing this.
Now that the tears have been cleared...Wow! You did a great thing- I am sure you don't want any recoginition but you deserve it.
Thoughts, prayers and anything else I can do to help your friend.
Beautiful Story Jason!!! God Bless you and your buddy!!!
Jay - I'm usually laughing my ass off at your blog - but this one - WOW!! We should all be so lucky to have friends like you in our corner thru the rough patches. A true friend is there not just for the fun and laughs - but the tuogh times too. My dad passed away from cancer 11 years ago..it's a rough battle.. Keeping him in my prayers!
i can't even imagine the pain. i have no words other than you are indeed a good friend. May God bless you for the kind man you are. Today I send peace, hope, and love.
LisaB.
That's an awesome story. It's horrible to hear about your friend's cancer - I hope he feels better. Furthermore, that's an awesome thing that Adam Graves did for you guys. I expected a phone call or something like that. He really went above and beyond for you.
Now I discover that you are not only a really good writer but also a really good friend!
Fuckin' cool man. That's what best friends are for. To be able to enjoy and share moments like this together despite all the shit around them.
Son, you never cease to amaze me. You're a mensch in the truest meaning of the word. I'm proud to be your Father. Love!
Jason....I'm visiting your Dad in S. Carolina and just read your blog. It was amazing. And so very inspiring...All my love..Judy.
Beautiful post.
The only positive that comes from cancer is getting to truly understand what's important in life. Family, friends, a hockey game.
My mom is fighting cancer. I hate it. We all hate it. But we're learning about living in the moment, not taking things for granted, and that family and friends are what life is about.
I can't stop my tears. What a great friend you are and how wonderful of Adam to respond in such a manner. Will keep your friend in my prayers, life is so fragile... Love U
Wow- Truly amazing story-
I've always heard that Gravy is a wonderful person, and this proves it. Great story.
Touching, brought a tear to my eye.
It was so great of you to reach out and what an amazing response! You and both of your friends are in my thoughts!
That was an incredibly touching story. All my best to your friend as he continues to battle.
That's a great story, Adam Graves is a class act! Nice job Jay!
Jason, that was such a touching story. It brought tears to my eyes. I will pray for your friend. I know how tough it is to deal with cancer. Hang in there!
You did an amazing thing. You are a good person and a wonderful friend. My respect for you right now has no bounds.
And that Adam Graves even answered you at all, much less did what he did, is incredible.
Happy for Rich that he had such a memorable night. Happy for you and Adam Graves, because I feel that goodness comes back to you, and both of you are waaaay up on the good-karma-meter right about now.
wow, AMAZING story, but not surprising knowing #9 and yourself. nice work!!
Dear Jason,
I'm so very proud of you. You did a most heartwarming thing. Bravo to you and to Adam Graves for giving Rich a wonderful night to remember.
Love you,
Mom
Rich is a lucky bastard to have a friend like you. And you to have a friend like Rich. I wish Jaime was there with you guys...and me too. Graves goes down in history as a God among men. A perfect story. Good times.
You made me cry but I am so proud to know you and to work for you - YOU ROCK!!
I rarely tear up over a post, but this really made me sad and happy all at once. Thanks for that. You do ROCK!
My mother died of cancer in July. For years, she was the most health-conscious person I knew, always striving to eat well, and always educating friends and family on how they might improve their health by changing their habits. I ignored her most of my life, until I got very sick a couple of years ago. My many trips to the doctors didn't help and didn't even give me any clarity on what was happening. So, I eventually came around to my mom's way of thinking, finally accepting that alternative medicine and healthy lifestyles are actually beneficial. Then, out of the blue, this past June, she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She lived just one month before it claimed her. Thankfully, she didn't suffer a slow and painful death. I spent that month researching options to try to extend her life via natural means, because she wanted no part of chemotherapy. Obviously, I was not successful, though I know that she was appreciative.
The gesture you made for your friend was excellent and certainly meaningful. What else can we do but reach out, show support and try to make a difference in the lives of the people we care about, especially in their times of need.
Nice post. Thanks for sharing.
What a tear jerker. You're lucky to have each other as such great friends. Those are the memories that last a lifetime. God bless!
As a lifelong Islander fan I was getting all ready to let you have it until I got about 5 sentences in. This is one of the best posts you've ever written. When you can make hockey fans tear up well, all I can say is my heart is out to your friend and you and the families.
That was wonderful on all of your parts. This pains me to say as a lifelong Flyers fan, but hats off to you and the Rangers.
Awesome post. You are a great man, Jason. And a wonderful friend. Prayers.
See you soon J.
It's great what you did.
What a special night.
Aw, that was awesome! This really touched me on a personal level.
That's what it's all about...caring and being compassionate.
Thanks for sharing this great tale with us.
Thank you to everyone for all the kind words in your comments and emails. I am blown away. Please continue to spread the word about The Garden of Dreams if possible. It's a great choice of Charity if you are looking to get involved. Also a special thanks to all those who have donated to my fund raising page. What a fantastic gesture. Peace...
glad you guys had a memorable night!
This is incredibly touching!!! Great job!
Class acts- you and Gravy. Very touching.
Once again, the extraordinary efforts by one person, provides the inspiration for others to do exceptional things. Out of sheer will and determination, Rich created the opportunity. He could have more easily chosen his couch and Sam Rosen, from the get-go. – His effort to dig for inner strength sparked Jason’s initiative to try and work some magic. Gravy, a man for all seasons – and what a finisher! The replay here is stunning. It happens tic-tac-toe in a gorgeous series of great play to re-live over and over. You all bring honor to yourselves, the Blue sweater and the innate goodness of man. My thoughts and prayers are with each of you. - Gravy wins the Art Ross. Jason takes home the Masterson and Lady Byng. Rich, you’re the unanimous Hart (pun-intended) Trophy winner - and everyone’s MVP.
You are a great friend.
WOW, absolutely the most touching...count on us my friend...
Jason this is awesome! Not only are you a great friend and you certainly deserve some kudos. Your friend also deserves kudos for making it to the game with you!
Graves always was the man and still is!
Great job, nice post and prayers for your friend!
Done!
That was an awesome thing to do for your friend. The world needs more people like you! On another note, I just found your blog last week and you are HILARIOUS! I work as a bill collector (dont hate) and Ive been reading your archives while sitting on hold.
I love your blog it is so funny.
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I love sports too. Your story gave me chills several different times. What an amazing thing to do for your friend. Sports are not dumb like many people feel. They have an amazing power to bring people together.
I used to work for an NHL team back in the day. In my opinion, professional hockey players are the more caring group of pro athletes there are. Most of these guys would play hockey regarless of pay. They love their fans and give back so much to their community. This post just illustrates that point. Nice work!
This is awesome. You are awesome. You made me cry. ~Susan
I don't even know what to say. What a beautiful gesture --by you and by Adam Graves. I am amazed that he knew this was a request worth acknowledging. Beautiful.
That is the sweetest story. . .ever.
OK this had me in tears - your friend is lucky ot have someone who cares so much for him. I am an ardent soccer supporter and people never get it - for me it is about the fact that no matter how bad things get for just a couple of hours a week you can forget about it and cheer loudly.
OK, I'm seriously in tears here at work (yeah, I'm a chick......) I've never read your blog before, but saw it as post of the day on Knucklehead and came over because of the hockey reference. I've a huge Rangers fan - this was absolutely awesome of both you and Adam Graves. Just - wow.
Hey Cuz: I am very proud of you. I always thought of you not only as a great "kid", but also someone who is loyal and giving. This story proves me right.
Cheers to Adam Graves and best wishes to your buddy.
Dude, you're a good friend.
Even though your team beat my team, I'll still support you. You are an awesome friend.
I'm a birthright Caps fan who feels the same way about my team that you do about yours, and I know in the end it adds something fun and meaningful to my life that a lot of people don't understand but that's okay.
I am so happy that your friend and you were able to have this healing experience. Good for Graves, good for you.
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